I recently read an awesome post over at Holly's House titled "Too Many Kids?" She has four kids and gets many lame, hurtful and annoying questions (you must read it - http://www.notaperfectmomsblog.com/2011/06/too-many-kids.html)
I'm so guilty, sooo guilty of disapproving looks and degrading questions when people have more than two kids. I once asked a mommy friend who was pregnant with her third what made her decide to have a third (knowing, just knowing she would say this pregnancy was an unplanned accident). Her response? She wanted FOUR!
Four!!! Four? Wow. I can barely hang with two. I have two and that's enough for me, but four!? You would have to put me in the loony bin because I am halfway there already with two!
Holly put very well into words what I was feeling but not able to describe. I am maxed out at two. Other people, maxed at one or five or ten. Everyone is different.
Who the hell am I to judge others on how many kids they want? Lots of people think I'm off my rocker for having two so close, only 12 months apart, and I think they can kiss my ass on occasion (sometimes I'm all world-peace and brush off rude comments to "everyone is different"...today they can kiss my ass).
So ladies, watch your mouth and shocked looks when super moms with a brood of kids is near. Just cause you can't hang doesn't mean they don't know how to prevent pregnancy.
3 comments:
I totally get that as well!!! Two is enough for me because my two are 13 1/2 months apart (which I always get "what were you thinking?" uh...I usually respond "We were thinking the condom would work?!"
Everyone has a different level of "parenting" and if someone wants 1, 4, or 10 kids...so be it!
Great post today!
Steph
www.alwaysjustamom.blogspot.com
oh sweetie!!! I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you feel badly....
You're so right, everyone is different...
And honestly, I bet you get the questions too about yours being so close together!
And I love your last line!
S. Greiner - love your response!!
Holly - don't feel bad! its the good guilt that reminds you to have empathy for people...i needed it!
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