I was never sexually abused. My kids have not been sexual abused, and I promise you, they will NOT be sexually abused because I am too much of a slapdick to not address the issue before it happens (I know there are cases that cannot be prevented...I am just doing my best to prevent the ones that can).
Here are a few stats I took from Darkness to Light, http://www.d2l.org/:
1 in 4 Girls will be sexually abused before she turns 18.
Ignorance is bliss...until someone gets hurt. As parents, it is our job to protect our children from the dangers of life as much as possible without sheltering them or filling their innocent heads with anxiety and fear of the world.
We can only keep them in our sight for so long until its off to school or daycare they go. From there, they will be alone with adults and other children. So how do we protect them from being sexually harassed?
Darkness to Light suggests seven steps. To read them go to http://www.d2l.org/site/c.4dICIJOkGcISE/b.6143703/k.15DC/7_Steps_to_Protecting_Our_Children.htm.
Their third step is to talk about it. This can be a touchy subject as you want to protect your children without exposing them too harshly to the fact about the monsters in this world (and give them crazy anxiety like I have). I suggest a few books for a range of comfort levels and ages. Don't be naive or stupid, stop this shit BEFORE it happens....
A very gentle, early approach is Some Parts are Not for Sharing. This is very G rated and dumbed down for even the most anxious father to read to his young daughter about not letting people touch "private parts". Great starter book for leery parent or child under two NOT going to daycare or often left with adults outside of mom or dad. I think the whole fish idea is pretty lame as fish are pretty off from human anatomy, but my kids like it.
My favorite for young kids is Your Body Belongs to You. Covers what parts are "private" (hidden by a swimsuit) and the idea that your body belongs to you so you can ask not to be kissed, hugged, touched etc if you don't like it and what to do if someone touches you in a way you don't like.
Another option is My Body Is Private (Albert Whitman Prairie Books). No pussyfooting around (pun intended) calling body parts what they are...penis, vagina etc. However, this is a very dry read and too long for kids under five or six for sure! I have opted not to read this to my kids yet, but I have in my library to read when they are older or for them to read when they are old enough.
20% of sexual abuse victims are under the age of 8.
More than 90% of abusers are people children know, love or trust.
Ignorance is bliss...until someone gets hurt. As parents, it is our job to protect our children from the dangers of life as much as possible without sheltering them or filling their innocent heads with anxiety and fear of the world.
We can only keep them in our sight for so long until its off to school or daycare they go. From there, they will be alone with adults and other children. So how do we protect them from being sexually harassed?
Darkness to Light suggests seven steps. To read them go to http://www.d2l.org/site/c.4dICIJOkGcISE/b.6143703/k.15DC/7_Steps_to_Protecting_Our_Children.htm.
Their third step is to talk about it. This can be a touchy subject as you want to protect your children without exposing them too harshly to the fact about the monsters in this world (and give them crazy anxiety like I have). I suggest a few books for a range of comfort levels and ages. Don't be naive or stupid, stop this shit BEFORE it happens....
A very gentle, early approach is Some Parts are Not for Sharing. This is very G rated and dumbed down for even the most anxious father to read to his young daughter about not letting people touch "private parts". Great starter book for leery parent or child under two NOT going to daycare or often left with adults outside of mom or dad. I think the whole fish idea is pretty lame as fish are pretty off from human anatomy, but my kids like it.
My favorite for young kids is Your Body Belongs to You. Covers what parts are "private" (hidden by a swimsuit) and the idea that your body belongs to you so you can ask not to be kissed, hugged, touched etc if you don't like it and what to do if someone touches you in a way you don't like.
Another option is My Body Is Private (Albert Whitman Prairie Books). No pussyfooting around (pun intended) calling body parts what they are...penis, vagina etc. However, this is a very dry read and too long for kids under five or six for sure! I have opted not to read this to my kids yet, but I have in my library to read when they are older or for them to read when they are old enough.
